When you posted your "Top 10 Things Mothers do Better than Fathers" I, like a bunch of other people, wrote a blog post about it. I spent a couple paragraphs on your post, but I wrote mostly about the responses it produced on the Babble Facebook page.
I am writing this response not to "get you." But I admit I have some concerns about your response to the controversy.
You start out by saying: "I also began to notice that the controversial posts were far more popular than the posts that tried to put real meaning behind the words. The realization of what people are interested in was more of a punch in the gut than anything. I decided to title a post, 'Top 10 Things Mothers Do Better Than Fathers.' It wasn’t my intention to offend fathers. It was written as a humor piece using personal examples from my own life."
Or as DADCAMP put it: "He wrote a personal fluff piece and gave it a generic headline to generate traffic. He admits he crafted it as link bait."
You seem to be simultaneously poking the bee hive and surprised the bees sting. Even though you said earlier that is exactly what happens.
And let me agree with you, some of the responses were over the top, and there are others of us that need to learn from this. But you need to learn from this too.
You have written some good stuff and maybe one of the good things to come out of this is people will read those as well.
Criticism is not fun. The first response is to become defensive. The same way the first response to a blog post using outdated stereotypes is to attack the author. It is a fairly new phenomenon that men are defending their image in the home as parents. Huggies found this out the hard way.
If you had titled the piece "10 Things My Wife Does Better Than Me" I don't think you would have gotten any of the negative responses. Ironically I doubt anyone would have challenged you parenting abilities if you had just made it about you. They attacked you because they felt attacked by you post. The response may have been nuclear, but you fired the first shot.
And simultaneously you seem to be saying, I made a controversial post and I know that brings out the worst in people, and I made a mistake and I don't understand why people acted so negatively.
If it was a mistake then you could have gotten ahead of this. When you saw the negative comments come rolling in you could have apologized and changed the language to be less inclusive. But then you wouldn't have continued to get the page views.
If it was just a matter of creating link bait, then the response is exactly what you would expect.
I am sure you are a nice enough guy, but I am having a hard time understanding which you believe it to be.
*This section has been removed because I attributed something to Cody that had actually been written by Cody's wife. My apologies to Cody.