Maybe it was hanging out with 60 at-home dads for the weekend, but it made me think, "What is it about the job of pastor they think is so much manlier than what I do?"
And while I don't know these pastors personally, I have known pastors and I have consulted the interweb to try to figure out what a pastor's job entails.
So with those experiences and my experiences as an at-home dad as well as gleaning from the experiences of other at-home dads I have done a little comparison. Your millage may vary.
Pastor: 9:00am - opens his day a Starbucks for quiet time, reflection and prayer.
At-Home Dad: 6:00am - start getting backpacks ready for school. get kids up and fix them breakfast. pack lunches. get the kids on the bus.
Pastor: 10:00am - staff meeting
At-Home Dad: 10:00am - load of laundry. scrub toilets. vacuum the stairs.
Pastor: 11:00am - lunch with other local pastors.
At-Home Dad: 11:00am - volunteer for recess duty at school.
Pastor: 12:00pm - sermon prep. reading books. studying. writing the sermon.
At-Home Dad: 12:00pm - grocery shopping. next load of laundry. mop the kitchen.
Pastor: 3:00pm - counseling appointment.
At-Home Dad: 3:00pm - pick up kids from bus stop. help with homework.
Pastor: 4:00pm - head home to see the family. feel good about todays work.
At-Home Dad: 4:00pm - start dinner prep. try to keep the kids entertained while cooking. maybe get one more load of laundry done.
Perhaps this isn't the most accurate daily schedule. And if you are an at-home dad to young kids then your schedule is even crazier. But there is nothing about the job of pastor that is particularly "manly" as these guys would define it.
And they would be fine if I cooked meals, but got a paycheck for it. They wouldn't mind if I was a janitor and cleaned toilets and got a paycheck for it. I would be manly enough if I worked in a laundromat and brought home a paycheck for washing clothes.
So it comes down to the money. So one more comparison.
At-Home Dad: The family income comes from the wife who provides a valuable service to the community while he provides for his family by taking care of all that things that make a household run and raising kids.
Pastor: His family income comes from convincing people who provide valuable services to the community to part with some of that money because he has been called by God to be over them. And that usually includes money earned by WOMEN.
This is not meant to rag on all pastors. I suspect most do not share the feelings of the pastors that believe that men who stay at home are not "manly." But there are enough that do believe that, well to you I say, I believe my job to be a lot "manlier" than your job.
And the good news is society is changing. Gender roles are changing. What it means to "provide" is changing. And as society changes, pastors like these will become more and more irrelevant.
So I should probably let this go already. While they haven't said anything recently, they continue to stand by and even promote these videos. So to you I say...
And this guy wants to call me lazy, like he has ever been on a treadmill.