This leads Vivia Chen of the Time blog to write, When Stay-at-Home Husbands Are Embarrassing to Their Wives
Several dads responded, and they did a fine job.
Dave Lesser wrote Sorry Honey, Vivia Chen Thinks I Embarrass You
Eric Boyette wrote Frankly, my dear...
Understandably the focus was on the "embarrassing" part. I mean it was in the title. But there is something else in her article I found more disturbing.
The NYT article was focused on women in the top echelons of banking.
And this is the type of world Chen lives in, which she is happy to tell us. "I’ve been covering the elite echelons of big law firms for over 10 years"
And in her writing on at-home dads she could feel the embarrassment. "I sensed that reluctance when I did a story on female partners at big Wall Street firms with househusbands a few years ago."
So understand that her article is what she "feels" based on her mingling in a world of seven figure salaries. But at the end of the article she writes this:
"What remains to be seen is what happens when the economics are not so 'obvious' — when women work at more pedestrian, less lucrative jobs."
No, we don't have to wait. It is happening. Just because Chen doesn't hang around with us mere mortals doesn't mean it isn't happening.
I know a lot of at-home dads. I'm guessing a lot more than Chen and all of them have wives with "more pedestrian" jobs.
She is suppose to be a reporter, but you don't have to pull your head very far from your diamond encrusted ass to know these dads are out there.
There are articles written about them.
There are conventions for them.
There are studies about them.
For Fuck's sake, do a google search and you can find hundreds of blogs written by them.
So maybe in the world of seven figure salaries and vacations in the Hamptons and private jets Chen's spider senses are right and some of those women are embarrassed by their at-home husbands.
But to write off the rest of us like we don't exist.
To call yourself a reporter and not even take the time to fucking Google your subject matter.
So Vivan Chen, the truth is we don't have to wonder what happens with at-home dads in families with more "pedestrian" jobs. For most of us it is working quite well.