Sunday, January 22, 2006

thinking forward/thinking back

I guess there have been quite a few things lately, including the impending birth of #2 that has me thinking back to when Cooper was born. Val was in residency and her schedule was nuts. She got 2 months off when Cooper was born and then she was back to 15+ hour days and sleeping at the hospital every 4th night. Sometimes I literally wouldn't see her for a 4-5 days at a time.

I was working full time. My boss was very gracious to let me telecommute half days once Cooper was born.

As hard as it was on me, it had to be especially hard on Val. For that I am eternally grateful to her. For out of that chaos came a delightful, funny, adorable little boy. And while I wouldn't want to do it again, I wouldn't trade it for the world.

I am thankful that now our life is at a little slower pace. That Val will be able to take more time off and when she goes back it won't be a schedule where she misses out on a great deal of his first 18 months.

I am thankful to a wife who is willing to go against the traditional gender roles and allow me to stay at home and raise our children, even when she would be very happy to switch places. She may now be wishing she married someone smarter.

I love you sweetie. You are an amazing woman.

3 comments:

Valerie Welch said...

I love you too.
There's no one that I could have married that is smarter, more loving, kinder, hard-working, or talented than you.
Valerie

Chris Good said...

You guys are too cute!!!

margaret said...

I think it's pretty cool that you get to be a stay-at-home dad! I think there are times when Dustin feels like he misses out on things and he'd like to switch places for awhile.

Speaking of non-traditional gender stuff... I hear that you are a scrapbooker. We're going to have to get you in on a scrapbook night if the "Quarry Scrapers" can ever find time to get together.